We Can Bounce Back

Someone that I loved died in January. I was already disillusioned with our healthcare system and the experience that my loved one went through made the disappointment even worse.

A few weeks after the death, I did some digging about a controversial health issue that had bothered me for awhile and what I found left me a little traumatized. So, when this current global crisis came about, I was already angry at our healthcare system, media, and the world in general. I regressed back to a familiar state of negativity and cynicism.

After listening to some uplifting podcasts and discussions with friends, I snapped out of it. I have always known that the world is a dark place. But the truth is that it is not all dark. And the question that I need to ask myself is, what can I do to bring light into the darkness? Do I want my kids to grow up with a mom who is angry at the whole world? So, a few days ago, I decided not to wallow anymore. I will pray. I will try my best to look for the good. I will look for ways to help others. I will try to be a good role model for my kids. If nothing else, I will try to be kind.

Friend, if you are reading this and are in urgent need of something, please seek help. Know that you are resilient. You can bounce back from this.

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Fear, Love, and Politics

Let’s talk politics! You may be thinking, “Why is she writing about politics in a Wellness blog? This is an unwelcome surprise.” I will try to explain why, so hang on ’til the end!

Back in 2016, when President Trump won the presidency, many people seemed to be in shock. Through all of the noise, the comments of one surprised newscaster really stood out to me. He said something like, “It seems clear that people are not really listening to each other. I’m going to really sit down and start listening to people.” The newscaster’s comments really resonated with me. This is what led me to start interviewing people about their political beliefs. By conducting interviews, I hoped to accomplish three goals: 1. Educate myself on other people’s political views and the reasons for their views. 2. Provide a non-judgmental listening ear to people that wanted to be heard. 3. Promote a sense of loving curiosity and unity. In the end, I didn’t interview a ton of people, but I feel like I learned a lot from both Democrats and Republicans. The below is what I took away from the interviews.

A lot of negative assumptions are made on both sides. Also, some people had the same moral convictions that I had, but when it came to the political realm, they just didn’t apply their beliefs in the same way that I did.

Sometimes fear disguises itself as anger. I realized that I am guilty of getting angry at people with different political views because I am scared for the future. After the interviews, I decided to make more of a conscious effort to focus more on caring about people rather than my fears.

There are many kind, compassionate people on both sides. I found that many people on both sides really care about people and this country.

If you listen to people first, people might want to listen to you afterwards. It was rewarding to be able to freely express my views with loved ones after I gave them a chance to share their own opinions.

Two people on opposing political sides can still love each other and enjoy being around each other. I interviewed a family member who disagreed with me on almost every single political issue, but after we both had a chance to share our opinions, I felt like I loved and respected her even more! Since the interview, we have made more of an effort to see each other more often.

Let’s revisit the question from the beginning of the post again. Why did I bring politics into a Wellness blog? Whether one can clearly articulate one’s views or not, everyone has some sort of political view. I want to encourage you to listen and love the person on the opposing side without fear. This will improve your relationships and your overall wellness! Do you agree?

This post was originally published on October 30, 2018 and updated on August 12, 2019.

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